“In life, things are not always easy but when you find your support system – people who truly love you for who you are – it’s one of the best things you should appreciate.” – just me.
These last few months have been a hard time for most of us. Personally, it has not been easy either. I am ‘trapped’ in my house and can’t do things I love. This kills me inside. However, as every other survival law: either we die or we adapt. In my case, I adapt and things get a little easier over time.
I am very lucky I have a good support system during this hard time. I’ve managed to learn that even when you give up on yourself, having people who don’t give up on you – has a magical effect.
When the lockdown happened, I predicted divorce rate would increase. I haven’t seen any published study on this yet so I don’t know if my hypothesis is true or false.
In my personal experience tho, my husband and I manage to support each other pretty well. He has shown me care and love towards me during my hard time. I am so blessed to feel that way.
In the early times, I felt quite anxious about my family in Indonesia, I couldn’t stop eating, and I became quite moody. He regularly checked on me, asking if I was ok. It was a bit annoying sometimes but when things got hard, I knew I could always talk to him. He kept saying “I’m here if you need me” without forcing me to tell him anything. It’s like you have space to overcome your own fears but you know there always be a safety net ready to catch you when you’re down.
The other time, he pushed me to my turning point of eating right. When I had a breakdown due to my binge eating, instead of saying ‘you’re fat’ or ‘you’re such a failure’ or ‘you’re crazy’ – he said ‘it’s ok. Don’t be sad. Let’s make a plan for you’ and he gave me some practical tips. It’s not like he pampered me but he has shown me a way out without judging me, which makes me feel thankful.
He never gives up on me. He never gives up on us. If any, he has been my number 1 support system in the last few months.
In life, things are not always easy but when you find your support system – people who truly love you for who you are – it’s one of the best things you should appreciate.